Remember when…..

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Sometimes as I sit back and reflect over my life I have trouble remembering things.

Like what, you ask?

Well, let me tell you.

There was a time when I stared at people who had a few random grey hairs, now I fear people stare at mine. When did that happen?

When buying a few drinks at the spirits store they used to ask me for ID even if I looked a terrible mess. Now they still ask me sometimes but I have to be dressed up like I’m going on a date. Seriously?!?!

I used to wear non padded bras and at the end of the day when I took it off I didn’t notice anything. Now after childbirth and 9 months of breastfeeding, I wear a fully padded enhancement bra and at the end of the day I remove my bra and I feel my breast fall right out of it. WTH?

These are just a few of my I remember when moments, kind of makes me feel old…..

But wait!

Remember when you had to follow someone else’s rules but now you do what you want to. Although I’m still in bed around 10p I can stay up if I wanna.

Remember when you were so clueless about life but thought you knew everything. That includes those nights crying because you didn’t get asked out on a date. So glad I finally got a clue about life.

Remember when you used to care what people thought of you and let that dictate how you dressed, talked, and lived your life. Ha! Not anymore!

Some of you who have been following my blog for a bit may remember my 30 is fabulous series.

Just wanted to remind you all that I ain’t forgot.

I’m in my 30′s and I’m still fabulous!

Tell me how are you fabulous? It’s your time to brag! I’m listening.

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30 Something and Loving It – Featuring SMH Mama

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I am so excited to have as my guest today Feyella, another fabulous 30 something woman, who despites juggling the demands of being a wife and mom, still finds time to embrace her thirties. Here is what she has to say.

30- Something and Loving It

I think we all remember being seventeen and just waiting in hungry anticipation to turn eighteen, as if it was some kind of Holy Grail that would open the flood gates of opportunities and unbridled fun.  Don’t even get me started on 21, geez, you would think we were about to win a million dollars or in Oprah’s audience – and you get a drink, and you get a drink and you and you and you, everyone gets drinks.  We were so happy for this milestone and couldn’t wait to get carded so we could show off our legalness.  Sometime after that though, the adding of years to our lives stopped feeling so monumental.

Fast forward to um, err, say, 28, and instead of looking forward to our birthdays, all of a sudden it becomes the kiss of death as 30 starts to loom towards us.  I mean at 28 a lot of us were out of college, possible married and maybe even had a child or two.  For me, all of that happened in the same year, so 30 wasn’t something I was looking forward to.  I just had my first child at 28 and was starting to feel the effects of childbirth and um, my slowing metabolism right around the hips and I wasn’t feeling it.  I totally dreaded being 30 and was trying hard to hold on to my “youth.”  At times I still tried to fit into that skinny mini skirt and graphic T-shirt that in my mind mad me look and feel like I was still in the “in crowd”, so to speak.

Now that 30 has gone and passed, I couldn’t be happier.  My 30-somethings are turning out to be pretty daggone awesome.  Let’s face it, in our twenties there was so much we were still figuring out, and not that we have all the answers at 30, but our outlook is much different.  I have confidence in a different way than I did before and no longer care about “looking young.”  As far as I’m concerned, I am young.  No need to shop in the juniors section, I got this sexy sophistication thing down.  I’m leaving the teeny bopper crap for teens and the tweens, and oh yeah the 26 years olds who haven’t gotten the memo yet.

That’s right!  I’m 30 something and fabulous, not because of looks (although I wouldn’t mind if you thought so) but because I don’t care.  It’s not quite the 70 year old pass, but it’s still pretty damn good.  I’ve got the “me” thing down and I’m loving it.  The 30s are all about confidence and style and I’m reveling in every minute of it.

Feyella aka smhmama is the fabulous blogger of Parenting…smh. Be sure to check her blog out and follow her on twitter @smhmama 

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My 30 is BETTER than my 25 – Featuring The Pro Diva

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3 Reasons I Prefer 30 over 25

 Greetings Divas and Gents! I am so happy that the Optimistic Mom selected me to submit a guest post for her fabulous blog. I absolutely adore the OM and her positive outlook on life. I especially love the fact that she embraces the many happenings of a thirty-something year old woman, and approaches life with laughter. In keeping with the spirit of this blog, I hope that this post makes you think while making you laugh. So…here I go!

 

When OM asked me what topic I wanted to write on, I immediately thought of a subject that I have learned to wholeheartedly embrace over the last year: turning 30. Now, I know some of the 20-somethings out there are cringing at the thought of turning 30…I know I did! In fact, after my 25th birthday I started counting backwards, which would make me 20! Fat chance, I know, but the truth is I have thoroughly enjoyed being 30. Seriously!  I would actually take 30 over 25 any day…WHAT!

 

You heard me right! As I prepare to celebrate my 31st birthday (on November 23rd), I have had almost a year to reflect on the fabulousness that is 30. In doing so, I quickly came to the conclusion that I would rather be 30 than 25. In the spirit of sharing, I have compiled the top 3 reasons why I prefer 30 over 25. Follow me for a spell, will you!

 

1. I Am Smarter – With age comes wisdom, and this is certainly true in almost every aspect of my life. Since 25 I have gained 5 years of professional experience, which has made me a more efficient and valuable businesswoman. I have taught myself how to cook, which at 25 would’ve been a death sentence to anyone who attempted to eat my food. I am smarter with money, which means I now recognize the importance of a 401K, a savings account, an emergency fund, and life insurance. Try talking to me about these things 5 years ago!  And finally, I am smarter in love. Since 25, I have married my best friend…who is also a complete and utter stud! I am so winning!

 

2. I Am Healthier – Like many 25 year olds I had a super high metabolism, which allowed me to eat burgers, fries, and pizza without gaining much weight. Let’s face it, if you can eat fast food without the threat of it showing up on your hips and thighs (and butt), you’re going to keep doing it….at 25, I kept doing it! At 30, however, the metabolism tends to slow down a bit. I was well aware of this ridiculous phenomenon, and I adjusted my eating habits accordingly. As such, I tend to eat healthier foods at 30 than I did at 25. And, I hit the gym more often than I did 5 years ago. The results: a healthier, sexier, and more fabulous Diva! After all, Operation “Get It Right, Keep It Tight” is a necessity at any age.

 

3. I Am No Longer Broke! – We have made it to the number one reason why I prefer 30 to 25. When I turned 25, I had just finished law school and had just taken two bar exams…but I was jobless and my student loan companies wanted their money back. No job means no sexy shoes, no fashionable clothes, and no partying! I was broke and still living at home with my parents! As such, I was forced to live the champagne life on a Kool-Aid budget. Translation: No bueno! Cut to 5 years later, I have an awesome job that I love and that pays well. Well enough for me to purchase oodles of shoes, purses, and premium cable! That is after the student loan companies get their cut. Unfortunately, they don’t go away after 5 years.

 

There you have it! Now, these reasons may seem overly simple, but I’m a simple girl who appreciates the little things. I also realize that 30 is nothing to be afraid of…embrace it! And recognize that while you were in fact younger at 25, nothing compares to that grown woman aura that overcomes you when you hit 30 and you got your stuff together. So in honor of 30, please raise your virtual martini glasses and let us toast to Dirty Thirty while rocking that little black dress and the 4 inch stilettos….grown woman stuff!

 

Special thanks to the ProDiva for stopping by! She is a great blogging buddy and a fabulous 30′s woman. Be sure to stop by her blog The Martini Chronicles and follow her on Twitter @TheProDiva

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Fabulous Begins at 30 – Featuring Tameka

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I am so excited to today to have one of my personal friends featured today, Tameka Moseley. I have not seen her in years, but we have remained connected through social media. She is a wonderful thirty something woman, a mother, and is working towards a law degree. She is a member of Yahoo Contributor network and enjoys writing. So needless to say she is a very busy lady on the move. I am so grateful she is able to stop by and share a few words about the fabulous world of 30. She currently blogs, when time permits, at Act Like You Got Some Cents.
Here’s how it starts. 
We are lying in our beds, staring at the ceiling and looking at the clock as it ticks to midnight. We are embracing those last moments in our 20’s. Turning 30 is not as bad as we think it is. We are embracing knowledge, security and dismissing the mistakes we made in the past. Truth be told, our 20’s are used as a learning curve in life. 
In our 30’s, the good stuff starts to unfold. We start to alleviate preposterous stipulations that once served an intended purpose. We start looking at progress instead of results. We start to cater to need than want. We begin to embrace new ideas with subject instead of surface. The idea of searching for Mr. Right becomes so shallow; we wonder why we place the validation of happiness on a complete stranger in the first place. 
Happiness comes from looking in the mirror and noticing your transitions that have dictated the outcome of your intent.  Complacent takes on a new meaning of owning your individuality without apologizing for it. We become more focus therefore produce more clarity in our lives. Turning 30 is such a unique age. Its uniqueness stems from confronted maturity accommodated by self-worth. 
As women, we become aware of life and what we are willing to conceive in order to produce what we want to have. We celebrate it by having lavish birthday bashes with our friends and families. We celebrate 30 with a push of a reset button. Truth be told, we are just starting to clarify the definition of fabulous when we reach the age of 30. We are amazingly remarkable in our own right. 
Turing 30 gives us permission to be a successful, experienced woman, whom is still eager to add ingredients to the recipe of life. So we rejoice at 30 for we know life is just getting started with us. Fabulous begins at 30.
Welcome it. Embrace it. Flirt with it. You deserve it! 

So as I continue to feature wonderful women who are embracing the 30′s I love to get your feedback. Now it is your turn, tell us how you are surviving getting older? Are you embracing it or fighting it? I can’t wait to hear what you have to say.

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Thirty Rocks! Featuring Mimi

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I am so excited to have Mimi here today as my featured guest this week. Mimi is the fabulous blogger of Lipgloss and Binky. She also happens to be a fabulous thirties woman and stopped by to share with us a few reasons why thirty is absolutely fabulous!!

Thirty Rocks!!!
Dirty Thirty…I guess you could call it that. In your twenties, thirty is like that far off place that you can only speculate about because you are soooo far from it. Then you hit twenty-five and the next thing you know you are staring thirty dead in the face. See, I once thought thirty was old until I became a member of the club. Then I was like, oh, I still got it. I haven’t missed a beat. As a thirty-two year old wife, mother and a whole bunch of other titles that I won’t bore you with, I have found that this milestone in life comes with some of the most awe inspiring epiphanies. Keep in mind these are my opinions and not fact, although I would like to think I’m an expert.
1.) I think 30 is the beginning of adulthood..anything before that is pre-adulthood..kinda like being a pre-teen.
2.) If your friends have made it with you through your twenties and partied with you when you turned the big 3-0 they will most likely be around until the end of time.
3.) You are so comfortable in yourself that what others think or say is like water off a duck’s back.
4.)  When you wear stilettos, your knees start to hurt but you can still manage to look good through the pain. I can’t guarantee the same at 35. Anybody hit that milestone do share. Inquiring minds want to know.
5.) Although you think you are still cool, you chastise children in the mall for using profanity.
6.) You can only stand the hippity hop music for so long, but you still listen.
7.) Your newfound frugality  better decision making will have you staring at a shirt in the store for 30 minutes contemplating whether or not the price is justifiable. Then nine times out of ten, you really want it but don’t get it.
8.) You blush when people say, “WHAT, you’re in your 30’s?” or ask you for ID to verify your age.
9.) People in their early twenties will not believe you when you tell them about a world that existed without the internet, Twitter, Facebook etc. They will even utter “for real” when you tell them just 15 years ago we were having to plug our computers into the phone line to get the internet…anybody remember that noise when it was connecting? No?
10.) You will always be fabulous despite your age. Being an awesome person is independent of age, it is all about self-love and enjoying life. The beauty of it is with age comes experience and the knowledge to live life to the fullest without the dumb mistakes!!
Now it’s you turn. What makes the thirties fabulous for you? Not in the thirties club, tell us about your age group and what makes it fabulous? Leave a comment telling us all about it.

Don’t forget to stop by Lipgloss and Binky and follow Mimi on Twitter @GlossyMimi. Mimi was also recently featured at Man Wife and Dog. Check her out! She is a woman on the go and I am so happy she found time to stop by. Thanks Mimi!! xo


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30 is FABulous

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Since I am 30+ years old, I figured that I must take time periodically to discuss the fabulous 30’s. I also would like to use this opportunity to interview other women who are enjoying the fabulous 30’s that would like sharing a few things they have learned along the way. After reading my interview of myself below, leave me a comment if you are interested or contact me.

 

1.  What is your age? You can lie if you want, but it is required that the number between 30 and 39.

Okay, 32, no wait 33. But I look 21, just ask the restaurant server.

 

2.  What was the greatest fear about turning 30?

Honestly, I wasn’t afraid. Given that hindsight is 20/20 my greatest fear would have been getting my first gray hair at 32. I mean seriously?!?!

 

3. If you could go back in time to warn yourself of something, what would it be?

Well, in my early 20’s I was a complete idiot regarding men, boys rather. Hey idiot Don’t chase after a man that doesn’t want to be caught!   

 

4. What makes 30 fabulous?

30 is fabulous for me because it has made me wiser, confident, and care free. Oh and I look like a 20 something. Go me!

 

5. What do you hope to accomplish before you turn 40?

I don’t know if you ever become what you were meant to be in life by the age of 40, however I just hope to find my niche, again. Just when I thought I had it all figured out, life threw me a curve ball. And now I walk around aimlessly, writing a blog.

 

6. What is something you used to worry about in your 20’s that you now could care less about?

I used to worry about how I looked and the imperfections that I could not correct, well not financially anyway.  For example I have grown to love my non athletic knees, so my husband calls them. I guess the best way to sum this up is to say I don’t worry about how others perceive me.

 

7. Who is your inner wanna be celebrity?

It is funny how this changes over time.  However, I am so in awe of Jada Pickett Smith. She is fabulous!! I would love to have a page from her diva book.

 

8. Given any day of the week, what would someone find in your purse?

Lip gloss of course!! I love this stuff, I have one in every purse that I own at all times. A girl can be without a comb, phone, keys, etc., but dry, cracked lips will never do!

 

9. What song best describes your personality?

 I have to laugh at this question, because it truly has changed over the years. I remember when 

Destiny’s Child – Independent Women was my theme song. Be sure to check it out. Let’s just say, things have changed over the years. You see, the shoes I’m wearing these days my husband bought them and much more! LOL

Today at 33, one of the songs that best describes my personality is Jill Scott – So Blessed

 

10. What make you laugh?

 Some of my best belly laughs are looking back over my life and realizing the situations in my life where I never stood a chance at winning. 

 

Bonus Question:

What turns you on in the bedroom?

Some days the pillow on my side of the bed is so attractive I can’t help but jump on it and cuddle it as tight as I can. Sometimes, I am so attracted to it that I salivate all over it.

However, there are those occasions the smell of my husband wearing cologne calls out to me……………And it’s on!!!  ROAR!!

 

So now that you know a little about why I think 30 is fabulous, tell me what makes it fab for you. If you have graduated from the 30’s tell me what I have to look forward to, yes the good, bad, and ugly. If you have not arrived to the thirties club yet, thats okay too, tell me what you hope to accomplish before the BIG 3-0.

 

 

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